‘ …..you ARE ill ‘
‘…….GET help BEFORE you get any worse’.
‘……….if only for the sake of the children.’
In this e-mail out of desperation, I wrote to my in-laws and close friend to ask them to ask G to release the money to pay the mortgage. As you can see he didn’t like that. He attempts to say they they are ‘distant’ people so therefore I should not be including them in what he calls ‘personal arguments’.
He considers me asking for help in getting the mortgage paid as a ‘personal argument’ and not the important matter of keeping the children’s home safe.
You can see one of the themes he liked to use throughout our ‘marriage’ .
For example telling me ‘ you ARE ill ‘ and telling me to ‘GET help BEFORE you get any worse.’
The triangulation using the children is clear when he says, ‘if only for the sake of the children.’